Growing Up Post College Years: Part II

Find A Hobby, Or Two

I often hear hobbies are expensive, so what can a broke 20 something really do?  Here are some inexpensive ideas: volunteer, explore meet up groups, join a book club, play sports, train for something, check out the local library, find a young adult church group, take pictures, learn another language, or cook...these are just a few ideas!   

Be Ok With Netflix, A Beverage, & Pizza

One of the greatest challenges in your 20's is the shift from communal living, to being alone. Even when we attempt to recreate that sense of community unique to college life (i.e.roommates), it is often not the same. Real life and work schedules dictate friends' availability. Sometimes you have to binge watch Netflix, have a glass of wine/beer, order a pizza, and be ok with it!

This Too Shall Pass (Yes, Mom! You Were Right.)

One of the concerns with social media, is that people portray a life not consistent with reality. This creates altered perceptions and expectations.  Suddenly, 20 somethings are left with the impression their peers have tons of friends, party all the time, and are immune to growing up. The truth: Transitions are really tough, and life is not the old way or the new way, for anyone. It's chaotic, stressful, and unpredictable; however, all of this will eventually pass. In retrospect, every mistake, success, and absurd moment, will have created the person you've become.

Accept Help

Perhaps it is how our brains are wired, but we are so very reticent to seek help.  Often, we ask too late. This is particularly true in the arenas of mental health, addiction, and finances.  Just remember, it takes strength to offer help, but tremendous courage to be the recipient. Be brave!  Part of becoming an adult, and growing up, is realizing when you need to bring in the troops. In my opinion, adolescence is marked by cleaning up the mess, and adulthood is about problem-solving to prevent it from happening. Try to seek out mentors through work, church, or other organizations with which you are involved.